Tuesday, June 20, 2006
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Can Beyonce like just shut her gap already? R&B is irritance to my ears right now. Grrr.
Ever wondered why obtaining experience is such an important matter in today's society? It can be studied in two different angles; work and relationships.
Under the category of work, it is all very straightforward. Undoubtedly, an employer would most likely hire a worker who is brilliant and experienced, rather than just brilliant only. Granted, having work experience proves to be extremely useful in getting a job in today's saturated market. You can never be bornt with experience, you can only gain it and so that's what makes experience so valuable.
What about relationships? The cliche "First love is always the sweetest." keeps lingering in my ears at the subject of First Love. The sappy Utada Hikaru song "First Love" also keeps replaying in my head, but whatever.
For me, unfortunately, my very first relationship cannot be called my first love, cos I wasn't in love in the first place and it only lasted for a pathetic month, so nah, I wouldn't take that as a real relationship.
My second boyfriend is my first love. We were together for a pretty long time of three years. When I was together with him, I had ZILCH experience. To put it in other words, I was a greenhorn. Everything also dunno. Kiss also dunno. Hug also dunno. Hold hands also dunno. Talk on the phone also dunno. Have a decent meal with boyfriend also dunno. I am not exaggerating when I say that I know absolutely NOTHING about being in a serious relationship.
I was inexperienced. Very inexperienced to say the least.
First love is always the sweetest? I think not, for my case at least. It started off sweet but ended up sour. It was one that should have ended nong, nong ago (ok bad sg idol joke. whatever.) but I stayed and hung and clung on for dear life just because I had never known any other guy the way I knew my then boyfriend.
Before him, I had never loved anyone else before. I had never kissed another guy before. I had never been on a date, watched movies or went shopping with another guy before. I had never been to the beach and watched the stars with another guy before.
I never had another guy love me before.
He was everything that I've ever known. I shared so many "firsts" with him. Now I understand what gave me the determination to stay by his side even though I wasn't happy being with him anymore. Just because I was inexperienced, never had the chance to experience being in a better relationship, never had the privilege of being loved by a better guy and so I thought him the best.
Although I left my first love, I took with me the experience of being in a serious relationship and the joys and pains it could bring. Now when I'm in my second relationship, I find myself talking incoherently to myself in my own head "You must have been superwoman to tolerate such shit your ex bf gave you." or "How did you actually get past those 3 years with a guy who was totally wrong for you?"
Experience is good. Take this chance when you're still young to find the man/woman most suitable for you. Don't just stick to your first if you cannot derive happiness from that relationship, just because you believe that first love will always be the sweetest. I tell you, it's bullshit and it doesn't apply to everyone.
You never know, the next one might be better, or even the best.
Ever wondered why obtaining experience is such an important matter in today's society? It can be studied in two different angles; work and relationships.
Under the category of work, it is all very straightforward. Undoubtedly, an employer would most likely hire a worker who is brilliant and experienced, rather than just brilliant only. Granted, having work experience proves to be extremely useful in getting a job in today's saturated market. You can never be bornt with experience, you can only gain it and so that's what makes experience so valuable.
What about relationships? The cliche "First love is always the sweetest." keeps lingering in my ears at the subject of First Love. The sappy Utada Hikaru song "First Love" also keeps replaying in my head, but whatever.
For me, unfortunately, my very first relationship cannot be called my first love, cos I wasn't in love in the first place and it only lasted for a pathetic month, so nah, I wouldn't take that as a real relationship.
My second boyfriend is my first love. We were together for a pretty long time of three years. When I was together with him, I had ZILCH experience. To put it in other words, I was a greenhorn. Everything also dunno. Kiss also dunno. Hug also dunno. Hold hands also dunno. Talk on the phone also dunno. Have a decent meal with boyfriend also dunno. I am not exaggerating when I say that I know absolutely NOTHING about being in a serious relationship.
I was inexperienced. Very inexperienced to say the least.
First love is always the sweetest? I think not, for my case at least. It started off sweet but ended up sour. It was one that should have ended nong, nong ago (ok bad sg idol joke. whatever.) but I stayed and hung and clung on for dear life just because I had never known any other guy the way I knew my then boyfriend.
Before him, I had never loved anyone else before. I had never kissed another guy before. I had never been on a date, watched movies or went shopping with another guy before. I had never been to the beach and watched the stars with another guy before.
I never had another guy love me before.
He was everything that I've ever known. I shared so many "firsts" with him. Now I understand what gave me the determination to stay by his side even though I wasn't happy being with him anymore. Just because I was inexperienced, never had the chance to experience being in a better relationship, never had the privilege of being loved by a better guy and so I thought him the best.
Although I left my first love, I took with me the experience of being in a serious relationship and the joys and pains it could bring. Now when I'm in my second relationship, I find myself talking incoherently to myself in my own head "You must have been superwoman to tolerate such shit your ex bf gave you." or "How did you actually get past those 3 years with a guy who was totally wrong for you?"
Experience is good. Take this chance when you're still young to find the man/woman most suitable for you. Don't just stick to your first if you cannot derive happiness from that relationship, just because you believe that first love will always be the sweetest. I tell you, it's bullshit and it doesn't apply to everyone.
You never know, the next one might be better, or even the best.
# posted by Gracie @ 10:17 PM 
